Those of you who follow me on twitter may have been part of ‘The Great Earring Debate’ during the summer. This involved my fourteen year old son and his desire to have his ear pierced.
My initial reaction to his request was ‘eeeeeek!’ How had I reached that stage already? How was it that the boy who’s highlight of the week was getting a gold star in school and a lollipop on Fridays had turned into a teenager with a mind of his own?
So Twitter had plenty to say on the subject. The opinion swayed largely in favour of letting him have his ear pierced. The general consensus was that a pierced ear was minor on the scale of what a teenager might ask for (gulp!). On discussing with my husband, we agreed that it’s important to choose our battles with a teenager so we’d let him have the earring.
I had visions of him going to a dark, seedy joint, owned by a seven foot man with a plaited goatee, a tattoo covered body and ear-lobes stretched to his feet. I’m sure he’d be a very nice man, but I wouldn’t want my fourteen year old getting any ideas beyond one itsy bitsy pierced ear. So I took him myself to a ‘nice’ shop and he got the job done – one little diamond stud which, I have to admit, looked quite nice.
So onto the next part of the debate. I have two teenagers in the same secondary school, a thirteen year old girl and the fourteen year old earring boy! Last year, the school rules stated that a girl could wear a small pair of studs but if a boy had an earring, he must cover with a plaster. I wasn’t at all sure how I felt about that. Surely the same small, neat stud should be acceptable on a boy as well as a girl. But rules are rules so I sent him off to school on Wednesday with his plaster-covered lobe. However, they’d changed the rules and now boys are not allowed to wear an earring at all in the classroom. My son was forced to take his out, even though he’s just had it in for a few weeks (for those of you who haven’t ventured into pierced territory, a piercing shouldn’t be taken out for six weeks to avoid infection!).
I know it’s more widely acceptable for girls to wear earrings but surely a simple stud in a boy’s ear should be allowed too. Or maybe you feel that it’s not natural for a boy to wear jewellery. I’ll be interested to hear your opinions.